Companionship:

When you long for companionship

“Then the Lord God made a woman…and he brought her to the man.” 

--Genesis 2:22 NIV

 

God recognised our need for companionship when He said, “‘It is not good for the man to be alone’…Then…God made a woman…and he brought her to the man” (vv. 18, 22 NIV). Most of us are social beings who are at our best around others. We garner energy and support from them. But there are those who feel a sense of shame over admitting their loneliness. They long for people to share their lives with but feel they must pretend they don’t need anyone.

You should not feel shame for wanting love and social connection. 

Admitting your desire to be loved and taking a step toward involvement actually requires courage. Accepting that you are a person who needs to connect is healthy. 

But problems arise when your need for companionship controls you. When you compromise your values in order to be accepted, the results are always negative. Clinging to other people without understanding who they are or what they represent is unhealthy. And the ramifications can have not only lifelong effects but sometimes also life-threatening consequences. Wise decisions about relationships are never to be made with a mind ruled by fear of loneliness or desperation. If that’s where you are, being single is a better alternative right now. It need only be temporary.

 

 So do these three things: (1) Ask God to guide you: “God sets the lonely in families” (Psalm 68:6 NIV). (2) Live by the values you’d want your loved one to hold as well. (3) Start with what you have to give and share with others, rather than with your unmet needs.

Soul Food: Deut 30:1–32:28 Matt 10:1–10 Ps 62 Pro 12:18–19

(Magnificently) many thanks to Vision.org.au

( from Digital Anvil)

Hyderabad Church:

 

 Optimism and Praise is warranted

 

 

These are photos of a big church in Hyderabad,India.

It holds about ~79,000s in the congregation. Most are poor to many middle class to some extremely rich Indians.

Outside of the Western nations like Australia, USA and Europe, this is one of the biggest.

I thought India was all Hindu and various cults and a tiny bit of Christianity. 

But--thank GOD-I was wrong.

By Digital Anvil.

 

 Deep Needs 

 

It’s tempting to think we’re strong, we’re capable, and “we’ve got this.” But in reality, we are powerless on our own. We desperately need -  in every day- help.

We are dependent on others, powers, information and tools.  

I know the importance of depending on others and God. 

“Seek the Lord and his strength."

‭‭In a world that’s constantly focused in on itself, it’s crucial to recognize our need to depend on God. We need strength, we need power, and—to put it simply—we need ! 

If you’re feeling confident in your own self-sufficiency, ask yourself: Who made this world? Who created my body, my mind, and my soul? My eyes, my legs, my lungs? Who has the power to save? Who holds the keys to life?

Just as we continually need air, we need the power and presence of God to sustain our every move.

So how can we seek His strength and support continually? By staying connected to Him: talking to Him internally throughout the day, in the middle of busy schedules, asking for His help.

God will never deny a heart that is genuinely seeking Him.

So come to Him with your weaknesses and He will give you strength. Come to Him with your questions, your needs, and your wants, and He will give you Himself, much of your needs and  a few of your wants 

 

Based on Anonymous Contribution.

 

(Final Form by Digital Anvil)

 

Songs of Sorrow 'n' Joy: ( Re-Work )  

I've forgotten how i first encountered this song but it became  significant after only 1 listen and vital after 3.

While my Zina lay dying in the final months, Love found me while my heart beat( almost in solitude) with her.

 

This was an all-time favourite of ours! 

Have a listen, tap or click link below:

 

Link to Song 

 

 

Broken Wings: Song by Mr Mister. (1985)

(Live at the Ritz:) 

 

 

(Echoed by Digital Anvil)

 

 

I think this next song (B) came  by a wonderful 'co-incidence ' ( is there really such a thing ?)

 

Disasters have a way of having an upside ( yes, there is-- really !)

 

this song of sorrow and joy is such an example.

 

enjoy the song by tapping or clicking on the link below:

 

  

Link to Song B 

 

 

Demi Lee Moore & Riaan Benadé - There Was Jesus.

 

The next songs (C ) and (D )  are substantially unique in that my Zina took me to a Sade concert to express and declare her delightfully, joyous love for me. All were her favourites, but these represent the most appreciated.

 

tap or click the link below

 

  

Link to Song C 

 

Your Love is King -- Sade. 

 

 

Tap or click the link below 

 

 

 Link to Song D

 

 

 Smooth Operator-- Sade.

 

Thanks for dropping by 

 

(From Digital Anvil ) 

Victim Mentality ?

The Victim Mentality:

The victim mentality which is essentially about the failure  to take responsibility, crippling both the individual and society

Someone else is always being asked to pay, the individual does not learn and society continues to be burdened by people who could be contributing to the greater good but ( perhaps ?) never will, because they will never take responsibility. Many psychologists and parts of the legal system seem to have encouraged this lack of responsibility by allowing the defence of syndromes. 

If we refuse to take responsibility, we also refuse to take the responsibility to change our lives for the better.  If taken seriously, then the consequential  life of the better individual ripples to that of the improved society.

A thought  echoed  by Digital Anvil.

Deduction vs Induction:

The Greek philosopher Aristotle (384-322 BC ) described ways in which we infer answers:

Deduction, which is a process of reasoning from some statement to reach a logical conclusion: and

Induction, where a set of observations are synthesised to reach a general conclusion.

In deduction the answer is certain, because it is based on some known facts and the decision can follow a clear, logical process. For induction the answer is probable, because you are basing your decision on some information. but you don't necessarily have all the information that you need. You cannot make a completely logical decision from induction.

(From Digital Anvil.)

Masculinity: Are We in Danger ?

A culture that cannot name and value

Masculinity will struggle to produce it.

When it disappears, it is not only men who are diminished, but the society that depends on them.

 by Child Psychologist: Claire Rowe.