Pathway to Healing Grief.

A Pathway to Healing Grief.

Grief is a profound and complex emotion, a reaction felt upon the loss of a loved one—most notably so when that loved one is a spouse. 

The emotional energy experienced by a grieving spouse can be a heavy burden yet an often unprepared for and often a misunderstood concept. Exploring this emotional energy not only provides insight into the anguish and turmoil associated with loss but also sheds light on the slow yet transformative journey toward wholeness.

To begin:it is essential to grasp what emotional energy is  Emotional energy is the intensity of feelings that arise in response to significant life events, such as the death of a  spouse/partner/ relative. This life -energy can encompass a wide spectrum—ranging from deep sorrow and anger to ongoing moments of joy in reminiscence. For many, particularly those in the depths of grief, emotional energy tends to feel overwhelmingly negative. The loss of a spouse can ignite a torrent of emotions that can be difficult to articulate; feelings of shock, emptiness, and despair often surge within. 

For the grieving spouse, each recollection can seem like a double-edged sword—invoking warmth and comfort while simultaneously reawakening sorrow 

These moments capture the overwhelming emotional energy that floods through grieving spouses, illuminating the sense of disorientation and loss of identity that can follow such a profound change.

In addition to the immediate emotional turmoil, grieving spouses may also experience a sort of cascading emotional energy—a repeatedly resurfacing wave of grief that impacts various facets of their lives. For instance, simple tasks like grocery shopping or attending social events can be overwhelming.It was like walking on a tightrope, balancing between wanting to move forward and being pulled back into the past.This sentiment resonates widely with those experiencing grief; the emotional energy may  switch between paralysis and mobilisation, making the journey through mourning particularly challenging.

 The reality is that grief is not linear, declining overall with time  but is utterly frameless or amorphous. Research suggests that individuals may cycle through different stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—often returning to previous stages without warning. This fluidity can create confusion, leading grieving spouses to question themselves  and whether their feelings are 'normal'.

 I learned to navigate this confusion in time. I discovered the importance of acknowledging my feelings rather than  ignoring or suppressing them, even when i was out and about. Recognising that it was acceptable to feel joy while simultaneously experiencing pain.

I thought that if I smiled or laughed, it meant I was moving on and leaving her behind. But then I realised that enjoying a moment doesn’t erase the love I continue to hold for her.

Another significant aspect of understanding emotional energy in grief is the relationship to time. For many grieving spouses, the initial months following the loss can feel like an avalanche of emotional experiences, where each day seems harder than the previous. The first year,I would describe as a mighty "roller coaster."

 However,day by day, I began to recognise shifts in the waves of sorrow, albeit fierce, began to ebb. This slow process captures the broader narrative of healing: that it is utterly natural for grieving individuals to experience a gradual shift in their emotional energy as they adjust to life without their partner.

Employing coping mechanisms can facilitate this transition from overwhelming grief to a more manageable emotional state. Many find peace in establishing rituals or setting up tribute displays to honour their partner's memory; creating meaningful experiences can serve as a bridge between past and present. Such acts of remembrance provide a means of honouring lost love while also allowing for personal reflection, ultimately offering a sense of empowerment that fosters continuity and healing.

Additionally, the role of community and support systems cannot be overstated. I gained considerable attention from others, even from earnest, empathic strangers. This seems to mirror ideas of others, when grieving, informing them  of the loss creates  a connection  which can be instrumental in the healing process. 

A life- affirming process  as storytelling can be, it offers acknowledgement and fosters a supportive environment for emotional energy as  part of significant life-events and  memories to be expressed and enjoyed.

 The sharing of life- events,such as the grief and emotional  energy whereby others relate softens the fierce emotions that can arise.

Stories of love-lost, deep distress and grief foster growth including  comprehension in the community at large . From individual loss to national disasters, storytelling comprise the offsetting of negative energy thus providing the amelioration of loss in the  personal to wider community. 

My belief is that although time heals, love and unconditional care heals more successfully.

 

(Opinion and further research by Digital Anvil ) 

American [Brand of] Marxism [continues]

 

 American Marxism [ continues]

 

 Class Struggle vs Individual Free Will?

 

A prolific writer and prominent advocate of Marxism  was John Dewey. (1859-1952) His role in drastically altering the traditional purposes of education into a social activism movement is manifest throughout education today.

 Dewey acknowledged and approved of Marxism's influence on, and relationship to, the progressive movement: 

"[T|he issue which [Marx] raised-the relation the economic structure to political- -is one that actively persists.

 Indeed, it forms the only basis of present political question... We are in for some kind of socialism, call it by whatever name you may  please, and no matter what it will be called when it is related is "Economic determinism," [Marx's theory of economic class struggle between, among others, the capitalist and the proletariat| now  a fact, not a theory. But there is a difference and a choice beneath a blind, chaotic and unplanned determinism, issuing from business conducted for pecuniary profit, and the determination socially planned and ordered development":

" It is the difference and the choice between a socialism that is public and one that is capitalistic."

 But there is no "economic determinism" when individuals are free to pursue their own goals and dreams. Economic struggle  is the false label given to hard work,competition, Free Will,personal motivation, responsibility and life lessons and hacks and the satisfaction of individual needs and desires, the creation and pursuit of  opportunities with accountability..etc. 

All of the above can be summarised as the fulfillment of individual desires and manifest complexities of each and every human being.

Excerpt from the Book, American Marxism by Mark E Levin.

( Opinion and research by Digital Anvil)

American [Brand of] Marxism:( Re-Work)

 

American Marxism 

 

Individual Opportunity vs  Greater Good?

 

 

 

Of course the ideas of capitalism are an enterprising example of economic opportunities for all. Practical unrestricted economic opportunities for all. But only for the greater good of the community.

 

 

"This is the core of Rousseau, Hegel and Marx--that is, the individual must sacrifice his independence, free Will and personal pursuits to the greater good, and in that way only will he become more fulfilled and self-realised, but the entire communitv will benefit as well."

 

" In America. capitalism and constitutionalism are ramparts that stand against Marxism and progressivism and, therefore, must be discredited and Ultimately demolished. For the progressive, like the Marxist, economic and political power must be in the same hands, the hands of a relative few in charge of the state."

 

"However, much groundwork must be done to create broader acquiescence or acceptance to this alien transformation, where the philosopher /kings and intellectual masterminds disassemble and, thereafter, remake society. The solution: indoctrinate "the masses," who have been raised to respect and revere the idealised tradition, custom, faith, and patriotism, to abandon the their supposedly obsolete beliefs for a promise of an organised, collective Utopia."

 

 

 

"Change the people to accommodate and eventually support an autocratic government ( The people ruled willingly by a smaller group of persons -elites ) that can allegedly manage their lives better than they can."

 

 

This state of play means that all invention and innovation becomes "property" of the State  whereby entrepreneurs and their start-ups are directed by the fewer but more cognisant of the" greater good " concepts and  elite-concentration of economic,cultural, social and political power.
 

When the means of production:capital,labour and other resources are combined,the State ( large Govt) claim and wield all necessary power, all aimed at the "greater good " the individual is swallowed up in the Utopian ideal.

 Individualism is extolled but only for or as the means to the "greater good" end. The State becomes the de facto father and mother in a similar oligarchical fashion to National Socialism ( Nazism ) and Fascism. Rebranding these political institutions as Social Democracy and Techno-feudalism. Whatever name or brand they go by, essentially  they are culturally Marxist or business/ communism. 

Excerpt from the Book: American Marxism by Mark Levin.

(NB: Opinion  and research by Digital Anvil)

 

 

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Serial Encounter Or Journey into Light; When does thinking something end or begin it ?

 

 Serial Encounter Or Journey into Light:

 

When does thinking something end or begin it? 

 

Some people actually believe that not talking about a particular narrative or conversation means that that particular topic has no influence or impact on them. This is some of the thinking behind the narrative of the left-leaning netizen 🤔. By not discussing it, one's life is not affected. By discussing it means that it is real and present danger.

This situation is a variant or semi- analogous to burying your head in the sand like an ostrich.The danger is still present but one cannot see it or acknowledge it.

Although one doesn't think that way or lead a conversation in that direction doesn't mean that that particular stream of thought hadn't impacted your behaviour or morphed your belief -system. Or isn't present in one's thinking. 

Believe it magical or not is the title of a broader infoscape on mysterious occurrences, strange events and inexplicable things not encountered in everyday life.But now shapes the views of many.

Believe- it- magical- or -not kind of thinking has also infiltrated some churches in the past decades. Many,unfortunately, teach that thinking casually or acknowledging sin only makes it worse and causes one to sin in the first place.

Of course this is Not what the Bible teaches. Sin is indulged in because we are all sinners.  We are not sinners because we sin, we sin because we are sinners from the beginning.

Some modern churches teach or else tend to promote that men, the masculine spirit, is the underlying cause for iniquity,sinning and existential problems that plague our global lives.

So much so that often some women inside and outside the church espouse the kind of belief that men are to blame for everything that is toxic in society and western societies in particular. 

Women, of course, don't sin- at all. It's all men's fault- they're bad.

But GOD.

The Bible helps us to collect and approach our thoughts and belief systems within as dispassionately yet authentically as possible. But being human,our hearts deceive us utterly and completely. Fiercely we fall under the sway of our greatest enemy- ourselves.

So we need someone or some being who can unravel the complexity of the ordinary heart. Dangerous as it is. 

To examine ourselves- in particular and each other, so that falsehoods, half-truths and outright lies don't sway us and our nations into destruction. 

Unfortunately,  surveillance societies make possible mass control of people and their beliefs in ways somehow foreseen by visionaries like Aldous Huxley and George Orwell. Alerting us to the dangers of secretive and overt authoritarian political  and cultural control. Kindly but strong rulers rarely exist and  that mean that the presence of evil affects us (even globally) today?

While it seems to us that the world is at peace,such peace is a false perception. Our world is at war with itself. Peace is the rarity,not the common state of being.

 

 Everywhere are the footprints and fingerprints of good, even in nations sullied by evil.

 

 

Of  course there are people out there who have gone before and concluded the very same problem(s) i have.  I am uncertain of my conclusions.  But doubts to the contrary doesn't mean we are wrong.Nor entirely correct either?

 

 Specific to universal truths are here, open your eyes  

 

A thorny issue, indeed?  What do you think? Agree or comment ?

 

Until next time. 

( Opinion by Digital Anvil)

 

 Nuance Is Needed

 

 German isn't Nazi ?

 President Trump isn't Nazi?

Israeli Defence Force  isn't Nazi?

Hitler was a nasty,evil Nazi.

 

On 27 July 1945, a funeral was held in an Anglican Church in Brompton, London. This was just after the Second World War, when Winston Churchill had led the English in resisting the force of the Nazis.

Churchill made it clear that Germany was the enemy and England had to stand together to defeat the German army. Imagine what the people of London felt when they heard that the funeral in the Brompton Church was for a German.

The funeral was for Dietrich Bonhoeffer, the German Lutheran minister, who stood up against Hitler and was executed in a German prison.

What the English needed to grasp was that not all Germans were evil; nuance was needed in their response.

Over half a century has passed, and nothing has changed. We should never judge an individual, a race or a group by the murderous actions of a few.

Thanks for this daily-reading from Daily Nudge. 

 

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Specific to Universal Truth (Quote)

Quote: Specific to Universal Truth.

On Stage 5 of the 2004 Tour de France, a breakaway group got out in front of the race, and a then-young Thomas Voeckler won the stage and the opportunity to wear the yellow jersey. In the tour, the race leader wears the yellow jersey – it’s enormously prestigious in world cycling.

Voeckler, wearing the yellow jersey, walked past the previous holder and the controversial cyclist Lance Armstrong and said, "Don’t worry, I am only borrowing it". In a surprisingly humble moment, Armstrong replied, "We are all only borrowing it".

Whatever position of leadership or responsibility you hold in public office or a private company, it’s helpful to remember you are only borrowing it.

You don’t own it, and it doesn’t define you.

We all only borrow our lives. It"s God who defines. 

( With thanks to Daily Nudge:Daily-reading)